pause . . .

The other day Harvey swung his 'baby' at Teddy very hard and hit him.  David saw what happened and was really mad.  We all sat in silence for what seemed like forever as David stood there starring at Harvey.  But, NO David just looked at Harvey and said nothing . . . he did it, he did the PAUSE.  David just starred at Harvey, he didn't say a word.  David told me what happened, I picked up Harvey took his baby and put him straight to bed without a word. When your kiddos do something and you just aren't sure how to react, just pause.  Take a moment of silence.  Your kids know when they misbehave.  The "pause' gives you a moment to collect yourself, to get calm and to get a plan.  The "pause" will also allow your child a moment to think about what they have done wrong.  And when your kids get older and do the unthinkable (sneak out, get caught drinking, take the car without asking, whatever) you don't have to get mad at them right away.  Pause, get calm and get a plan.  Your punishment will be so much clearer and well thought out if it's delivered when you are calm.

XO