DAY 5 of kids . . . mean what you say

Here is my last day of KIDS, for now.  Let's do quick recap.

DAY 1 - 'YOU ARE OK'.  This is my biggest pet peeve in the world of parenting!  To dismiss a child (or anyone's feelings).  If a kiddo falls down, they are crying and screaming and visibly upset . . . this is not the time to tell them, 'you are OK.'  Accept, don't dismiss feelings.  Click here to read the original post . . . http://kysakelleher.com/2013/09/30/you-are-ok/

 

DAY 2 - SIT BACK AND RELAX.  This is one of my favorites!  Let kids live!  Don't put on their coats for them, don't put away their clothes, don't do their homework for them, don't teach them how to use a toy the 'right' way.  Sit back, relax and let your kids do things themselves!  It's their lives, it's their opportunity to live it!  Click here to read the original post . . . http://kysakelleher.com/2013/10/01/sit-back-and-relax/

 

DAY 3 - Shame.  Don't do it . . . just don't!  Click here to read the original post . . . http://kysakelleher.com/2013/10/07/day-3-kids/

 

DAY 4 - Be polite.  Discipline and raise kids with manners, it will pay off in the long run.  Click here to read the original post . . . http://kysakelleher.com/2013/10/08/day-4-kids-be-polite/

 

This is a very, very simple post.  Say what you mean and mean it!  There are two parts to this . . .

  1. STAND BEHIND YOUR WORDS.  If you say to your child put on your jacket so we can go to the park and they don't put on their jacket, guess who isn't going to the park.  If you say it, you have to stand behind it.  If you tell your child it's time to leave the park and they say 'no,' pick them up and leave the park (kicking and screaming and all).  Teach them you mean what you say, because if you don't do it now imagine what it will be like when your kiddo is a teenager.  Kinda scary!  No need to be a crazy disciplinary, just be polite, and if you have to add a little muscle to the job (and I don't mean spanking).  Here's an example.  We have a new baby sitter.  We were loading the kids in the car the other day to head to the zoo, and she said the little one wouldn't get in his seat.  I said tell him he has to get in his seat or you are putting him in.  She told him, he said no, I told her to pick him up put him in the seat.  He was SCREAMING and arching his back, I told her to gently, but firmly hold him in the seat and put his seatbelt on, she did.  Then when it was time to leave the zoo, it was the sitters job to put the same little one back in the seat.  He wasn't too happy about leaving the zoo.  But when it came time to put him in his car seat, he just stared at her with these HUGE eyes because he knew she meant business and he was going to be buckled into his seat.  The sitter was amazed!
  2. DO NOT BRIBE!  Seriously folks, if this is a parenting skill of yours . . . get counseling.  Sorry to be so cruel, but who's in charge?

 

Lots of love everyone and happy parenting.   ;)